People love to complain.
If you check out most blogs or websites geared towards millennials, chances are, you’ll see at least a few pieces complaining about how text and social media are ruining our relationships. They’re making us distracted, lonely and even unfaithful.
I too, am guilty as charged.
We can all relate to those moments people complain about, where they’re expressing some deep and important concern to their partner who is paying more attention to the notifications on their phone than they are to the conversation.
But at the end of the day, text and social media are just tools. Blaming them for relationship issues is the same as blaming a hammer for a crooked table. It gives you no insight on how to actually make things better
So I wanted to take a moment to share a few of the most simple and basic things you can do to make sure texts and social media are actually bringing you and your mate closer:
Use It To Remember the Good Times
We spend so much time documenting the good times in our lives these days, but how often do we take the time to go back and remember them?
Whether you’re having a bad day or got into a heated disagreement, take some time to browse through your social media history and relive those moments instead of taking to your status bar to vent your frustrations about your relationship.
Use It To Express Gratitude
I make it a point to ask the couples I work with how often they express gratitude to one another, and surprisingly, most couples don’t do so unless it’s a special occasion. But why wait?
Like Kanye said, “If you admire somebody, you should go ahead and tell them. People never get the flowers while they can still smell them”, and I agree.
Whether is a meal cooked or some words of encouragement they expressed that helped keep you going, sending your mate a quick text in the middle of their day to let them know you’re grateful for them goes a long way. It’s a great habit to get used to doing on a regular basis.
Use It To Make Each Other Laugh
Social media can be a strange place. Between hilarious memes and all the other odd things people love to share, there’s plenty to laugh about.
What better way to use social media to better your relationship other than to screen capture the outlandish things people share and use them as the butt of your jokes with each other?
Doing so makes for some good inside jokes, by the way.
Download The App For That
From guiding you step by step through healthy communication techniques to helping you create shared scrap books to exploring your sex lives together to managing your finances, there really is an app for everything.
A quick search for relationship apps in the app store will bring up a whole range of digital relationship tools for you to choose from. Download a bunch and try them out to see which ones work for you and your partner. Many of them are free!
Shut It Down
As much as we appreciate keeping in touch and staying connected with the world throughout the day, it feels even better to make time for genuine, face-to-face connection with your mate.
It does your relationship good [not to mention it’ll be greatly appreciated by your partner] if sometimes, you just power down your tablets and smart phones and focus on the time you’re spending together.
See, texting and social media aren’t necessarily the enemy a lot of folks make them out to be. They’re great tools that can be used to strengthen your relationship if you use them as such. And these ideas are just the tip of the iceberg. There’s so much digital communication can do for you and your mate.
So what are your thoughts? What are some ways you guys use text and social media to better your relationship?